Build Your Home

Before the World Destroys It.

If there is anything I have known to be a societal defect, even from when I was much younger than I am now, it is this:
the family pillar in society is becoming weak.

We often say that the home is the first point of socialization for every child. And I agree. The bulk of the type of person one grows up to be largely depends on the family. And so, stories of childhood trauma—and even stories of morally decadent adults — hurt me more than most things.
Because the question I always ask is: Could this have been avoided if the family was better?

I know this is a little subjective and there will always be holes here and there, but I beseech you, dear reader, walk with me.

I might be wrong, but I’d say that if we can get the family institution to be strong and solid as it should be, the chances of us having more holistically healthy and more sane people become much higher. I think a large percentage of the worlds’s issues traces to the institution of the family.

A lot of my friends have heard me say that I would love to have and raise children who reflect Christ—sons and daughters alike. I want to train them to be better humans in this broken world. So that in a generation where “all men are terrible creatures” and “fear women o”, I have children who are challenging the stereotype and proving what it means to be properly grounded people.

Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. (Pro 22:6)

Pardon my spiritual inclinations, but this is a call for genuine Christian homes in my generation. And when I say Christian, I speak beyond Christianity as just a religion but as the mirroring of the image, likeness and life of Christ on earth. When we have homes that are first built on the solid foundation of Jesus Christ, kids born into such households are taught and trained in the right environment. Then they grow to become better people than their parents were. I believe that this is the key to societal change. Because when we are TRULY living and loving like Christ did, it shows.

I’m talking about homes where love—both vertically and horizontally— is strong, present and pronounced. Where children are raised to communicate and stand up for themselves. Where children know how to respect and value the next human being. Where children are built up to be confident in themselves and in their abilities. Where the boys see an example of what it is like to be a true husband and father. Where girls see what being a mother and a wife really means. The list goes on.

Love GOD, your God, with your whole heart: love him with all that’s in you, love him with all you’ve got! Write these commandments that I’ve given you today on your hearts. Get them inside of you and then get them inside your children. (Deut 6:5-7a MSG)

I know that it is easier said than done in these days because kids will go out, go to school, meet people and experience other parts of reality from different angles. They will meet people from differing backgrounds who may be able to derail them. But the strength of a structure is only as strong as its foundation. And the home should be that foundation, and it should be built on Christ, THE solid rock!

Today, we have women who feel unsafe around men. We have men who do not know how to treat a lady without being creepy. We have women who see every man as a source of livelihood. We have men who have been traumatised and scarred by key women in their lives. Heck, we have children whose main source of trauma is the ones who birthed them.

We gotta do this better. We have to do all we can to do better. From now, start praying into your marriage and your home. Because we’ve tried to build without Him—and we’re seeing the cracks. The original plan of God for mankind was family. Only the ultimate creator can show you how to properly build the structure that He created. A better generation NEEDS to come from us. And may the name of the Lord prevail.

Ire o.

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